John Peponias

An eight part series on factors that can truly affect the quality of your years

Part III: Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences

Considering the dozens of books, motivational seminars, and articles written on this subject, there is certainly something to be said for how significant an impact this principle can make in your life. Take a moment and think about how this information and its’ practice can affect and enhance your life.

There is an old adage that says, “Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are”. Basically, you are a product of the company you keep.

The people you spend time with at work and in your leisure hours have the greatest influence on your mind. They also have the most profound affect on what you can ultimately achieve. These associations are mostly referred to as positive and negative, or sometimes you may hear “nourishing” and “toxic” relationships.

An ideal friendship or relationship is one that offers support, encouragement, and reinforcement in tough times, reminds you of your strengths when you lose sight of them, and can provide insight and sound advice when you’ve simply lost your way. People that are positive or nourishing influences in your life should also inspire you to reach greater heights, and are also more than likely the ones that are the most fun to be with when times are good.

Negative or toxic friendships are ones that simply seem to drag you down. These relationships are just down-right exhausting, and extremely taxing on your energy levels. These people always seem to be downbeat, glum, unenthusiastic, and tend to have a generally pessimistic outlook on life or when facing challenging times. It is difficult to maintain this type of association or friendship and you will find it often times to be unconstructive and draining. Inevitably, these people will bring you down to their level! Please know, I am not saying that a person you consider to be a friend who is this way should not receive your help and support, but you really should be careful to manage or regulate the amount of time you invest these friendships.

Even the most positive persons can be de-energized by negative people. Examine your friendships and associations closely, and make it your responsibility to surround yourself with upbeat, supportive, constructive, and positive or nourishing people. In addition, thinking positively and being optimistic will help you to overcome difficult problems by allowing you to view things more objectively.

Finally, remember one other simple notion. Like minds attract! If you are positive, you will attract more positive people to you. Conversely, if you are negative, you can expect to attract negative people.
Make it a point to surround yourself with positive influences and people. This principle is sure to have a profound impact on your quality of life, and your ultimate success.

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